If you're not confident and comfortable in your own skin with this, that will set you up for failure in the dating world. In other words, my ABDL keys into things that she needs, and so it works even though she was not a 'mommy' looking for a 'baby.'Īs I always tell people, first make sure you are in a healthy spot with how you feel about your ABDL with yourself. But she was not looking for an ABDL dynamic - it has happened because we have communicated our needs with each other and we both fulfill those needs mutually. I met my current partner, who understands and participates in ABDL with me, on a 'vanilla' dating site. I never did try an ABDL-specific dating site yet I still managed to find several women who were either willing to try this with me or did get it to one degree or another. An advantage to dating online is that you can indicate in some way in your profile that you are looking for something that is not typical - how you choose to phrase that is up to you. And in order to do that, you have to be feeling okay and comfortable with yourself and this part of who you are. My experience has been that the key to so much of this is communication with a partner or potential partner early on about what you need.
First, there's some very good advice here already.
